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[Meditation] Reclaim your power from a narcissistic relationship

By Marie Satori

 

I get a lot of messages from clients asking,

What do I do if I can't leave?
Is there any way to make them change? 

Perhaps the narcissist their lover (a lover you can leave, Paul Simon wrote a song on 50 ways to leave your lover - however if you need time to process your emotions before leaving, or build up financial security), or the narcissist is your boss and they need this job; or need to deal with their narcissistic boss until you have the time to find a new job. Perhaps the narcissist is your spouse, and you have children together. It's your mother, father, sibling and you can’t, just yet, in good conscience abandon them.

A relationship with a narcissist (be it work, love, family, friendship) can sap your self-respect and confidence, this meditation is going to help you reclaim that belief in yourself. Once you start to feel more confident, you’ll be more empowered to make the right decision, for you, on how you want to navigate or end this relationship.

The fact that you’re interested in this meditation means that you are experiencing two things:

1. You’re dealing with a narcissist (be it work, love, family, friendship)



2. You’ve been experiencing low self-esteem and confidence because of this narcissist, and need to empower your self-esteem and confidence so you can make the right decision, for you, on how you want to navigate or end the narcissist relationship dynamic.

 

 

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[Meditation] Stop Thinking About Someone

By Marie Satori

 

 

The best time to use this meditation is at night, before going to bed.

People often ask me about profound connections. The sense that they have met someone that “they’ve never felt a connection like this before” – followed by a deep confusion as to why then a relationship isn't manifesting, or why the relationship has fallen apart. Then, in the state of separation they find themselves still thinking about the connection or wondering “why am I still holding on?” or internalizing and wondering “what is wrong with me?”  that they haven’t yet experienced this sense of release. Don’t you hate when people say, “just move on!” Of course! If only it were that easy ...

We think and dream of others because we still feel the energetic connection, and believe there is still more to be learned from the relationship - even after it's over, or possibly on a pause.

Be it an ex, friend, co-worker, business partner, or a person of interest or intrigue - perhaps it's someone that has hurt you, or took advantage of your kindness?

There are relationship dynamics that confuse us, and leave us asking - what is or was the meaning of this connection?

 

The fact that you’re listening to this meditation means that you are experiencing two things:

  1. You’ve been repetitively thinking about a particular person

  2. You’ve been experiencing strong emotions about a person (be it attraction, heart break, longing, guilt, anger as examples) … the import thing is that your feelings about this person are triggering a compulsive though loop.

 

Perhaps you have a sense that there’s unfinished business between the both of you; and your stories are not over - perhaps you feel something needs to be resolved before you can move forward. Perhaps you are finding it difficult to accept what happened between the both of you in the past, and feel like things should be different from how they are now. Or, it’s possible this person cut communication with you cannot express or release these unsaid thoughts or emotions…

The deeply relaxing, and hypnotic part of this meditation is going to help you in three ways: first, it’s going to help you calm the emotional charge that is associated with this person, so you can feel more neutral, detached and objected.

Once a compulsive thought loses its emotional charge, it simultaneously loses all the power atone had over you, and ou naturally find yourself no longer thinking that thought. This does not break any energetic connection, or energetic cords between you and this person - this simply calms your mind.

Secondly, this meditation is going to send a powerful symbolic message to your subconscious mind that this is, for now, finished business, that you’re done with this person at the present moment, and you can begin living your life in this moment, no longer distracted by these thoughts.

And thirdly, this meditation is going to guide your attention in much more positive and fulfilling direction, so that you see new, exciting opportunities opening for you , in your future so that you can properly meet your physical and emotional needs in this moment.

 

Book a session: If you would like to look deeper into the spiritual connection? If you cannot stop thinking about someone; be it an ex, friend, or a person of interest or intrigue ... I can look at the spiritual connection, and discover the root connection and cause of your attachment and connection: Why can't I stop thinking about you?

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July 31 - Mercury Direct in Cancer at 24 degrees

By Lara AstroInsights

July 31 - Mercury Direct in Cancer at 24 degrees

July 31 - Mercury Direct in Cancer at 24 degrees
If the 4 planets in Leo haven’t shifted the energy for you yet, Mercury going direct today in Cancer will. Remember that things can potentially get messier when a planet stations direct. Misunderstandings and miscommunications are heightened. Lay low and connect to your internal process. Cancer unearths our emotional conditioning and our need to be needed. If things have felt stuck, charged, and triggering, that should start to release over the next week and when Mercury moves into Leo on August 11th. Mercury will be in his shadow until August 14, so remember to communicate clearly, and allow new information and clearing up of misunderstanding to come through. 

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July 27 - Venus moves into Leo

By Lara AstroInsights

July 27 - Venus moves into Leo

July 27 - Venus moves into Leo
The planet of love moves into the sign of play, pride, and romance, joining the Sun and Mars there. Venus is lavish in Leo. She takes her sense of beauty and flaunts it in the most classy and creative way. She takes her desire for partnership and turns up the heat and romance. She’s playful, flirtatious, sensual, sexual, and affectionate. If you’re looking for partnership, August is the time to do it. If you’re looking to get pregnant, there’s a high likelihood that conception could happen. And that’s a word of caution to those not looking to conceive just yet. We’ve let go of a lot of emotional baggage with the eclipse and planetary focus in Cancer over the last few weeks. Now’s the time to fill yourself up again with love and laughter. This could be in romantic relationships, creative partnerships, vacations, or playful antics. Remember to be kind and stay low drama. Explore the ways in which you seek love, attention and validation, and have difficulty letting go of your pride, ego and selfishness. Leo is generous and big hearted. Focus on these qualities within yourself and have fun!



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Sun moves into Leo

By Lara AstroInsights

Sun moves into Leo

 

July 22 - Sun Moves into Leo. Sun moves into its ruling sign of Leo, today July 22nd, joining Mars. Two strong willed, dynamic, and independent planets in the prideful and creative sign of the King. What we need to watch out for are ego conflicts, selfishness, creating unnecessary drama, and unhealthy attention seeking behavior. What we can embrace is a return of generosity, playfulness, children and our inner child, creativity, ambition, self-love, passion, and romanticism. Yes all the juicy and positive aspects of Leo can be channeled if we stay mindful of our own ego and keep in check unhealthy behavior that’s fueled from a need for attention and validation. It’s ok to be wanted, desired, passionate, noticed and loved. These are all great and healthy in fact! However, the ways in which we ask for, or behave, in order to have these desires met is what become problematic. Say you’re sorry when you’ve done something out of integrity. I know this can be difficult for you Leo, but a sincere apology goes a loooong way! Sincere being the key word here. We’ll have lots of time to practice this and lots of time to play as well, because by the end of July there will be 4 planets, Sun, Venus, Mars and the Moon, in Leo when the Leo New Moon hits, and by Mid-August Mercury will be joining them all! Create, Play, Love, Laugh, and be Humble!




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Capricorn Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse

By Lara AstroInsights

Capricorn Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse

This Capricorn Eclipse is a South Node Eclipse, and is combined with Mercury retrograde which is asking us to look back and heal our generational patterns and emotional conditioning so we can mature forward. This eclipse is also strongly influenced by a conjunction to Pluto and Saturn, asking us to look at power dynamics and limitations in our work and home environment. 

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Mercury Retrograde & Eclipse Season

By Lara AstroInsights

Mercury Retrograde & Eclipse Season

This is a guest post written by Lara of Astroinsights

Mercury Retrograde
July 7 - 31, 2019


4 degrees Leo to 23 degrees Cancer
July 7 - July 18/19 in Leo
July 18/19 - July 31 in Cancer


Mercury Retrograde, Eclipses, Chiron Retrograde, Saturn conjunct South Node. It’s difficult to know exactly which of these influences we are feeling right now! But feeling we are with the Sun, Venus, and the last Eclipse in the sensitive sign of Cancer. We may have made it through the Cancer Eclipse but we’ll be exploring Cancer themes until Mercury leaves the sign on August 11th. We will however, have some relief on July 28th when Venus moves into Leo and joins the Sun and Mars there, bringing our focus back to fire and fun. 


Right now Mercury is stationing retrograde exactly conjunct Mars in Cancer and Square Uranus in Taurus. Nervous system mayhem can ensue if we aren’t practicing enough self care. Anyone with planets or points between the 3-6 degree mark around the zodiac, and particularly the fixed signs of Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius, and Taurus, will be feeling this retrograde most in the first week. 


As with all Mercury Retrogrades, we need to be mindful of our words as misunderstandings easily arise. The beginning of the retrograde Mercury starts out in Leo with a conjunction to Mars. Communication may have a sharp or even mean quality to it. We may feel impatient, selfish, reactive, stubborn and prideful. With the two planets in Square to Uranus, we may feel like we need more space and independence than usual. We may find out news that’s unsettling or rapidly changes our direction, experience sudden separations, arguments, or just be in a state of overwhelm. With many planets still in Cancer, we are more sensitive than usual so find practices that help ground and center you through the changes arising now or get support from friends, family, or practitioners. 


It doesn’t all need to feel burdensome though. There may also be reconnections with past partners, as with all retrogrades, but in Leo we enter the romance sign of the zodiac. Issues around giving and receiving love and exploring what strategies we use in order to gain love, affection, and attention. We could be reflecting on our individuality and how we express ourself. Creative projects are the focus and the motivation to reconnect, rework and experiment with our talents is fired up. Mars traveling through Leo is a powerhouse, so even with Mercury retrograde, we may still make some forward progress in these areas. But be aware not to get too frustrated if things don’t move as fast as you would like them to. 


When Mercury moves back into Cancer on July 18/19, it joins Venus, the Sun and the North Node again. We see the focus shifts from Leo self-expression, back to an internal emotional processing. Cancer themes of family, support, security, and nurturing, will have us working through the emotional content of inner child wounds and ancestral karma. Now’s the time to do some deep healing and reconnect to our emotions. We can learn strategies to self-soothe and de-escalate during triggering moments. We can heal past experiences that left us feeling helpless, insecure and victimized. 


Sensitive Cancer is helping us reclaim our inner parent, so we can nurture and love ourself. This often means developing healthy boundaries with those who are taking too much of our generosity. Take not of the people or situations where you are giving too much of yourself and not receiving enough in return. Reciprocity is important in relationship and during this retrograde period we may need to make some adjustments in our relationships dynamics so they feel more balanced, safe, and secure. 


On a more practical level, home situations may be changing. It’s a good time to reorganize and take care of any broken or dilapidated areas. You might consider moving, or in the process of making a move. Consider what places and situations make you feel nurtured and safe. Surround your home with things that also make you feel nurtured and safe. Bring in an element of beauty and calmness to your environment to help ground and balance. 


On July 31 Mercury moves Direct at 23 degrees Cancer and in opposition to Pluto in Capricorn. During this time we may be facing our shadow through power dynamics, and abusive or manipulative situations in work or family dynamics. We may also have conversations that aim to understand or resolve these issues. Intimacy can be developed more deeply when we share our vulnerability and light and shadow with others. We may also experience this process solo as we explore our inner thought processes that help us reconnect to the power and wisdom of emotions. Pluto brings transformation so expect this time to offer a depth of experience through insight and connection. 


Mercury finally moves out of his shadow on August 14 and we can begin to feel full speed ahead! It’s likely to be a bit of a bumpy ride over the next three weeks with the goal of helping us heal, connect with others, and become more connected to our emotions and emotionally resilient. Take time for yourself and focus on what nurtures and supports you. If you don’t know what that is yet, you will discover it by the end of this retrograde. Hold yourself in loving compassion no matter what arises.

Would you like to learn more?
You can book an astrology session with Lara, here.

 



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Cancer New Moon & Eclipse

By Lara AstroInsights

Cancer New Moon & Eclipse

This is a guest post by Lara, AstroInsights

July 2, 12:22pm PST, Cancer New Moon & Eclipse
10 Degrees Cancer

Moon - ruler of Cancer, in Cancer
New Moon conjunct North Node - North Node Eclipse 
New Moon Oppose Saturn 
Mercury Stationing Retrograde in Leo
Chiron Stationing Retrograde in Aries
Mercury Conjunct Mars 
Mars Mercury Square Uranus in Taurus
Mars/Mercury Trine Chiron in Aries
Venus moves into Cancer 

Happy Cancer New Moon! Many of us have been feeling the emotional, watery waves of the last few weeks with Neptune Stationing Retrograde in Pisces, and Mars, Mercury, the North Node, and the Sun in Cancer. You may be experiencing confusion, feelings of helplessness, neediness, frustration, and overall sensitivity to current situations, people, and circumstances. You may also be reconnecting to your family, ancestry, and reviewing your home life and whether or not your needs are getting met, or if you’re giving more than receiving. 

These themes and more will be the focus of this upcoming New Moon Eclipse in Cancer. And there is a slight contradiction in the energy as this Eclipse is a North Node Eclipse, meaning it will be pulling us forward in some way, but Saturn will be exactly conjunct the South Node, Mercury will be Stationing Retrograde in Leo and moving back into Cancer, and Chiron will also be Stationing Retrograde in Aries, leaving us with more than half the planets in retrograde motion. We are literally revisiting and clearing out the past to make way for our future. 

Eclipse Season is the time to release the old and build the new. Review what isn’t working and find new paths forward and new solutions to stuck patterns. If you aren’t proactive in making change, Eclipses will create change for you and make it painfully uncomfortable. These Eclipses are in Cancer and Capricorn; Cancer is the home, family, support and security, and Capricorn is work, responsibility, autonomy, and status.   

Cancer is the Mother archetype, the loving, grounded, protective presence that shows up for us in times of need. She is the bloodline that connects us to our roots, generations of familial stories and karma that we carry through to present time. She is the bearer of life giving water that gives rise to creation, from conception to birth. 

Now is the time to go within and connect with what nurtures and supports you most, and then eventually, maybe not until after the Eclipse, look outside and see how you can carry that nurturance and support to the world around you, in your family, in your work, in your creative pursuits. We are most sensitive when Cancer is the focus in the collective field. We are easily triggered and may feel more lost and alone than usual. Take time for self-care and explore the deeper unconscious patterns that are arising during this time. Healing is also the path of Cancer. Healing our ancestral and early childhood wounds so that we can liberate ourself from conditioned programs of fear, unworthiness, and lack. 

With Saturn (the ruler of the South Node in Capricorn) Conjunct the South Node, we are taking a good look at the ways in which we may have neglected family or our own emotional process in exchange for work, career, and status. Or we may also be exploring if our current work and role in society is emotionally fulfilling, purposeful, and satisfying. If it isn’t, then some major changes may be underway to bring you more in alignment with a life that creates a healthy balance of family, work, and fulfillment.  

Creative energies are freed up and Ego’s may be fired up with Mars and Mercury conjunct in Leo AND Squaring Uranus, and Trine Chiron. To add to the sensitivity of Cancer, Uranus and Chiron play a major role during this Eclipse, stirring up old wounds, short fuses, and erratic behavior. It’s also bringing in new information that inspires healing, connection, and possibly even playfulness if we can come out the other side of our inner child wounding and need for validation and attention. Breakthroughs, breakdowns, and sudden changes will course correct us. Remember that we all have struggles in our past and present and compassion can go a long way in repairing ruptures in relationships. 

Boundaries are equally as important as connection and reflect compassion for yourself in unhealthy situations. With Cancer the boundaries between us and them are blurred as their needs become our need and responsibility. With Saturn Conjunct the South Node and Opposing this Cancer New Moon we are confronted with our own need for structure, autonomy, boundaries, and definition within all the roles we play in life. Sometimes creating boundaries means we let go of those people or situations that are not supporting or nurturing us. This is the conversation this New Moon. Mars and Mercury in Leo will give us just enough of an edge of selfishness to advocate for ourself and our needs and desires. Ambiguity won’t last through this New Moon, and new ways of living and relating with more clarity and structure will be the result in the end. 

With Mercury Stationing Retrograde, however these new boundaries and clarity will be tested to make sure that the choices you’re making are truly what you want and need. Once he moves back into Cancer, these tests will become more pronounced and we’ll need to adjust course where necessary. 

Give yourself the time to connect to your inner resources and sense of security. Seeking outside yourself won’t bring fulfillment. Only working on yourself with love and compassion will manifest these qualities outside yourself. Happiness in relationships, work, and family, are all contingent upon how much you value and love yourself. Begin here all will fall into place.

 

Would you like to discover and learn more about this Eclipse season and how the energies will impact you? You can book an email Astrology Reading here.

 

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